Does your man refuse to talk to you about the 'important' things in his life? Have you tried getting him to talk to you without any success? How can you make him talk to you more?
1. Stop asking him to talk to you. Asking or nagging or pleading for him to talk to you will NOT work. You have probably tried it... and it has not worked... and it will never work! The more pressure you pile on him to talk... the less willing he becomes to talk to you about the things that matter to him.
2. Respect his feelings, opinions and ego. He must know that you will not make fun of him or dismiss his concerns as non-issues or have other such negative responses, in order for him to talk to you. If you do not respect him in your normal interaction then he will NOT talk to you. You must make him feel that it is safe to talk to you. Does he hear from you how you appreciate him? Does he see that you respect him by how you interact together? Do you avoid manipulating or blackmailing him with tears or tantrums etc.? If you can answer yes to all these questions then you have the right atmosphere to make him talk to you.
3. Accept the fact that men and women talk differently. You must realize that he will never talk to you like your girlfriends do. Few men have the capacity to easily talk about their inner thoughts and feelings like girls do. He will not easily jump into it... even if he feels safe with you. To make him talk to you requires that you learn to sit quietly with him until he feels ready and willing to talk... and don't expect the details and intricacies that your girlfriends would give.
4. Don't break his confidence. To make him talk to you then he must know that you will keep his secrets. If he suspects that you do not keep confidence then he will not be able to talk to you.
To make him talk to you more means that you must make some changes in how you interact with him so that you become his confidant and he talks to you about his issues.
1. Stop asking him to talk to you. Asking or nagging or pleading for him to talk to you will NOT work. You have probably tried it... and it has not worked... and it will never work! The more pressure you pile on him to talk... the less willing he becomes to talk to you about the things that matter to him.
2. Respect his feelings, opinions and ego. He must know that you will not make fun of him or dismiss his concerns as non-issues or have other such negative responses, in order for him to talk to you. If you do not respect him in your normal interaction then he will NOT talk to you. You must make him feel that it is safe to talk to you. Does he hear from you how you appreciate him? Does he see that you respect him by how you interact together? Do you avoid manipulating or blackmailing him with tears or tantrums etc.? If you can answer yes to all these questions then you have the right atmosphere to make him talk to you.
3. Accept the fact that men and women talk differently. You must realize that he will never talk to you like your girlfriends do. Few men have the capacity to easily talk about their inner thoughts and feelings like girls do. He will not easily jump into it... even if he feels safe with you. To make him talk to you requires that you learn to sit quietly with him until he feels ready and willing to talk... and don't expect the details and intricacies that your girlfriends would give.
4. Don't break his confidence. To make him talk to you then he must know that you will keep his secrets. If he suspects that you do not keep confidence then he will not be able to talk to you.
To make him talk to you more means that you must make some changes in how you interact with him so that you become his confidant and he talks to you about his issues.
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